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今年もつれづれなるままに・・・
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more pleasure in loving than in being loved?

There is a saying "There is more pleasure in loving than in being loved.", but my Chinese friend and I believe opposite should be better.

I went to see one of Chinese friends, and heard her story when she was in Japan several years ago.
At that time, she was just 18 years old, and worked day and night.
She had a Chinese boyfriend, and he took care of her very much, had her dressed well, cooked meals for her, and went to pick her up when she came back very late after work. However, she didn't really care about his affection, and she often went out with other guys. She realized she was so bad to him at that time. There are few guys who can give his very best to her.

When I think of myself, there was a few guys who were very nice to me, but I missed them.
They were always so nice to me, but I didn't appreciate it much. I don't know it's just a coincidence, but they are all Cancer(kani) in zodiac sign, and two of them would have told me "I would be happy if you are happy." What a shame!

The Chinese friend said to me, "Generally speaking, I think Japanese guys are not really sincere and nice enough to their girlfriends."
"Yeah, compared with Chinese guys, they are less thoughtful to girlfriends, of course, there are some nice guys, though."
She knows a lot of Japanese guys go to "fuzoku" , also knows Chinese guys around her in Japan were the same.
"Some people date 2,3 girls at once, or some Japanese staff stationed in China or Asia often go to the bars that provide 'entertainments' or go to hookers."
She said to me disappointedly, "Youmei, you should find a Chinese boyfriend. It is much happier than being with them throughout this life!"

She strongly persuaded me to find a Chinese boyfriend, but I don't think it is realistic at the moment.

In the end, we both agree that we should find the guys who really care about us. "There is more pleasure in being loved than loving."
I should find someone who is a Cancerian and all nice to me.
by liuxue | 2006-02-25 21:07 | 話題huati
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